Charles Baudelaire and hospitals

Came across a lovely comment by Charles Baudelaire, sort of variation on ‘The grass is greener…’ “This life is a hospital where every patient is possessed with the desire to change beds” – seems to capture the constant worry that we could be doing better, or worse, that others are better placed than [...]

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Is resilience enough?

In engineering terms, resilience refers to the ability of a material to recover its shape. For people it’s about ‘bouncing back’ and recovering from life’s hits which, in its own right, is quite a helpful strength but, is it enough to simply return to the status-quo? When you encounter a situation that challenges your mental [...]

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Words matter

  Some time ago I was invited to visit a local prison – just for the day you understand – to talk to staff about a programme they were running for violent inmates. They took me to a large, light and airy room in which they worked with those offenders who had shown an interest in modifying how they behaved. As I went into the room, I [...]

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Dangerous loyalty

A diplomat famously pointed out that countries do not have friends, they have shared interests. Similarly, organisations do not have feelings; they have contracts. People have feelings. The point of the above statement is that, if we take it on board, it helps us to avoid becoming emotionally attached to an organisation we work for and [...]

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Rejecting dependency

Had a shock recently when I visited a friend who used to be my boss many many years ago and now lives in a resthome. In those days I was well down the food chain and he was generally regarded as a substitute, if not replacement for, God; except that he had more power and authority. On the spur of the moment, my wife and I decided to go [...]

Continuous Improvement

Look after yourself

In a study of 1000 people over a period of 40+ years, ‘The Dunedin Project’ ( http://dunedinstudy.otago.ac.nz/news-and-events/article/41 ) revealed staggering variances between a person’s chronological age and their biological age i.e. how well the body and mind of people had aged. Notwithstanding variations in [...]


Filters or augmenters?

At a recent Shifting Gears workshop, a participant observed that when we see ‘As it is’, not only do we ‘see’ what we want to see, we also create what we want to see. In other words we filter and augment what is available with our fears and fantasies thus creating our very own experience. That may not matter too [...]